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I Am Not Alone.

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If we are anything alike, then you most likely value solitude. And there is nothing wrong with that. However, there are lessons that we need to learn alone and those we need to learn through community. 



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I am finally brave enough to embrace a lesson that the Universe has been trying to teach me for some time now. Whenever I go through hard times, my first instinct is to isolate myself. I have been afraid to let others in (with good reason of course). I was afraid to ask for help or reach out. 




Recently I came to realize that I am not alone and every dry spell, drought, or wilderness I had to walk through, there was always someone walking me home. I was not alone when I was rendered homeless twice. I was not alone when I had to move out. Neither was I alone when I moved from apartment 12 to apartment 4, and even with my recent diagnosis of COVID-19.

Although it might have been lonely and awfully quiet and the people I wanted there were not but I was not alone. I was right where I was supposed to be. The people who were meant to be there, were there. The right people were by my side waiting to envelop me with kind words and love. Embracing those truths has helped to heal a lot of my wounds.

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We may not want to admit it but community is important to us all. Shared experiences and pain run deep and through humanity's bloodline. Sharing our trauma and stories if anything connects us. Although I am still learning that it is okay to let your community walk with you through hard times, I am grateful. 


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In what ways does your tribe or circle uphold and surround you? Feel free to comment below. 

Thank you for always showing up. 


Inhale: 
I am not alone.

Exhale:
I am grateful for my tribe.

Inhale: 
I do not have to hurt alone

Exhale:
I belong to a community that embraces all of me.

Inhale:
I know when to walk alone

Exhale:
I know when to reach out


P. S: if this piece resonated with you feel free to check out  Alex Elle and Jamila Reddy on the Ritual App. 
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  1. NovieFebruary 2, 2022 at 2:26 PM

    It is OK to let your community walk with you love. Be cognizant of the energy you allow in, but not every energy is bad energy. Choose wisely and learn when to allow your hands to be held. I love you. Always.

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    1. Anella M'Press ShillingfordFebruary 3, 2022 at 4:50 PM

      I love you, too, my love.

      That's why we have to pray for discernment.

      ♥️♥️

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  2. Bernice Registe-MaronieFebruary 2, 2022 at 4:34 PM

    Community is indeed important, and they don't have to be present physically. Just the thought that they are availble is enough sometimes.....

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    1. Anella M'Press ShillingfordFebruary 3, 2022 at 4:50 PM

      That is very true.

      Thank you for showing up. Love and light to you.

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  3. UnknownFebruary 3, 2022 at 8:41 PM

    Walking along that journey ❤🇩🇲

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  4. LisaFebruary 4, 2022 at 9:41 AM

    Thank YOU for showing up. For continuing to write in the good and bad times and for sharing your lessons with us.
    Community is important in helping us navigate through life and I am thankful for my tribe ❤️

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