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People are Complex.


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Do you write people off or do you take them as they?


While on my much-needed hiatus, I was able to do some introspection about life, people, and the spaces I occupy presently. 

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Earlier this year, I experienced a great betrayal (at one point or another, most of us have experienced this or will - it is part of life). I won't go into much detail, but it was from someone I held very dear and in high esteem. In the end, I realized that not everyone sees you as you see them. 
People are complex - not complicated but dynamic. 

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If we are honest, we will admit that the people in our lives hold different roles for different folks. Someone we may deem as a hero in our story may very well be a villain in someone else's. I am sure that you have played a villainous role in someone's life. And that is perfectly fine because people are complex - multifaceted.  

Take a moment to think of the most intolerable person you know (the bad boy or gangster down the street who is always causing trouble, or your unappreciative bosses). Each of these individuals is loved intensely by someone. They may very well be a hero in the eyes of their loved ones. They are human with real fears and emotions like you. 


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When we realize that people are complex and ever-evolving, we will save ourselves time and forgo heartbreak. We label others as "good" or "bad" when in reality, we all have desirable and undesirable qualities. 

If we are honest, sometimes we demonize people or give them angel wings before getting to know them. Surprisingly, monsters can save lives, and angels can break hearts. 

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Perhaps it is time we stop thinking of people as being exclusively "good" or "bad" and start thinking of them for what they are - complex. Because "good" people can let us down, and "bad" people tend to save lives. 


Thank you for showing up. Love and light to you. 
 
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  1. NovieDecember 11, 2021 at 11:37 AM

    Every coin has 2 sides. Every person can be seen through different lens. You're right my love. If we just see people as complex then we can erase the labels of good and bad. Complex covers the black, the white and the in between. Love it!

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  2. ErwinDecember 12, 2021 at 8:31 AM

    I tend to look at everyone as me. I know my mixed emotions, mixed pleasures, mixed interests, moods and times. Therefore I don't expect too much from people yet I give them the benefit of their own time.

    However, even with this approach, it is still difficult to forgo heartbreak. Especially when it peeps through the smallest window that you let down your guard.

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